Friday, October 30, 2015

Learn from your sadness

I got depressed while walking home. I thought about how we may not be able to pay the estate tax on time. So we might have to pay the 25% penalty.

I got sad about many things. I am already 32 years old but still do not feel ready to marry and have children. I am still scared of talking to and disagreeing with people. 

I do not like cooking because my taste is so bland so I let other people cook. I do not have life-long friends because I befriend people when we are together. When I go away, there is no point.

I do not have a solution to my problems. But I can be grateful for what I have now. I can pray for a better life and ask God to bless me. I don't have to solve all my problems now.

I just have to walk one step at a time. Do my best. Hope for the rest. Be a light. Remember that the darkness can allow us to see the light.

Saturday, October 17, 2015

Find your strengths

Today I read Strengths Finder 2.0 and took the online test. I found my top 5 strengths: Context, Connectedness, Intellection, Adaptability, and Restorative. 

Context means thinking about the past. In Filipino, we say: "Ang hindi lumingon sa pinanggalingan ay hindi makakarating sa patutunguhan." Those who do not look back to where they came from will never reach their destination.

Connectedness means having faith in the links among all things and believing that everything happens for a reason. "Ang lahat ng bagay ay magka-ugnay." Everything is connected.

Intellection means thinking about ideas and reflecting about your life. Think with your head and feel with your heart. "Mag-isip muna bago magsalita." Think before you speak.

Adaptability means going with the flow. "Hindi problema ang kaibigan sa taong marunong makisama." Being a friend is not a problem to a person who can adapt.

Restorative means solving problems. "Lahat ng problema, may paraan." Every problem has a solution.

I still use my top strengths as a lawyer. I look at the past, see the connections, think about ideas, adapt to the situation, and solve problems. But I hope to use more of my strengths in my work and my life. 

Tuesday, October 06, 2015


In the past, I always felt out of place at school because I just wanted to listen and read. I was called “out of the blue” in high school because I always say things that are not connected to the subject at hand. At one Christmas party, I even won an award called “Right to Remain Silent.”

Contrary to type, I studied law to help my family. Now I do litigation for labor, estate, and civil cases with the goal of an amicable settlement if this is favorable to clients. Maybe I can work in compliance like your editor. I still do not like conflict, but my work seems better when I remember that I am here to help.

Thursday, October 01, 2015

Cram then scram

I crammed writing my memorandum. I don't want to do this again. I should finish a pleading within a week after I receive the notice. I also have a cold and no more medicine so I have to get weel naturally. The good thing I got from my experience is that I read excerpts of The Curmudgeon's Guide to Practicing Law.