Wednesday, September 10, 2014

Maybe everyone is crazy?

Today my father visited us. He told me to review with another person taking the bar exam.

I said that there is no one who lives near me or even within the next city. Besides, I will be going to school for lectures for five days this month.

He asked me if I heard mass yesterday (September 8), the birthday of the Virgin Mary. I said no but my mother did hear mass yesterday.

He said that he went to church yesterday. It seems that he was more religious than me.

So I asked him if he takes communion. He said he does.

I asked him if he has confession. He said yes.

I asked him if he had his marriage to my mother annulled by the church. He said he hasn't.

So I told him that he's committing adultery but still taking communion.

Here's the crazy part. He said that he has a Church of [his name].

It was so crazy that I had to ask who are the members. He said it was only him. He laughed.

I laughed at his craziness. I don't know how he could make these lies so easily. Maybe he really believes his lies.

He left and went to visit my brother at work. So I texted my brother that our father is going there.

So I told my cousin and my mother and we couldn't stop laughing.

By the way, he hasn't shown me the airplane tickets to Australia to prove that he was telling the truth.

In other news, my brother asked me about the contact information for depression that I sent to him and his girlfriend.

He said that the girlfriend was sensitive and get mad. She has Irish blood. I said it's ok if she gets mad or hates me because I just want to help her by giving information.

He said that they're ok already and I shouldn't have sent the info anyway. I said that depression can manifest through anger, a favorite feeling of the girlfriend.

I also said that if he's walking on eggshells around her, then things are not yet ok. So I simply said that it's still up to them to call the hotline or use the information to help their depression.

He said thank you for the concern. 

Maybe everyone is crazy?

Tuesday, September 09, 2014

Avoid violence and trash

Just to add to Sunday's post, the girlfriend called the guy "fucking trash."

This is shocking to me. I have never said "fuck" to another person. You don't say "fucking trash" to a person who loves you and does his best to help you. It just goes to show that the mouth simply speaks what the heart is full of. Maybe what she said is simply a reflection of herself.

But the guy just got back with the girlfriend. He spent the past two nights with her, allegedly without alcohol. On the first night after the abuse, the girlfriend was even angry at him. I can't believe this craziness because she was the aggressor and the person at fault, but she had the gall to get mad at him.

On the second night, he said they were already on good terms. Of course, he was the one who did all the soothing and bending back for her. He even brought food to her. Maybe she was satisfied with the food. Maybe just wants him as a meal ticket.

The good news is that the guy said that he would never bring the girlfriend back to our home. At least, he would honor our request not to bring her back. I would not be able to see her hurt the guy again. We might still hang the frying pan on the front door to remind us of the abuse that happened in our home.

I just don't understand why the guy has returned to the girlfriend after all the abuse. He said that two girls already left him and he doesn't want to lose another girl. He might even marry him. Even after the abuse, he still believes that she can change.

While I believe that people can and do change, I also believe that actions speak louder than words. In this case, it was the guy who was doing all the work for the relationship. I have never heard the girlfriend apologize to the guy or to any of us.  The girlfriend still has so much contempt against the guy and against us. I really hope and pray she can be enlightened.

The guy also said that the girlfriend is the only one who understands him. But if she truly understood him, why does she need to slap and hit him? Is saying "fucking trash" the password to unlock his full potential? I don't think so. In fact, physical abuse is a signal that something is definitely wrong.

In other news, my bar permit is ready and I can pick it up on Friday. God bless!

Sunday, September 07, 2014

Please pray for her

I am saddened to write this post, but it must be done before I forget it. Or before she says something else.

I woke up this Sunday to loud noises. I heard a guy's girlfriend. I went to his room and saw my him, his girlfriend, and my cousin. The guy was on the bed. The girlfriend was on the floor. My cousin was standing near the door. There was a frying pan in the room. 

The guy and the girlfriend were fighting. She was saying that he was always the good guy and that the  family will not believe her. My cousin was telling her to calm down and to talk peacefully with the guy. She refused and said that she wanted to go out. 

She went out of the house but within the gate. We followed her while she was still talking. My cousin was calming her down. She was angry and she said that the guy hit her, but I cannot believe her.

I went to the guy and asked what happened. My mother also came in his bedroom. The guy said that she was always so negative. She always criticized him. He got mad at her so he told her to stop.   

So I stayed with the guy for a while in the bedroom. Then she came and got her sandals. Suddenly,  she quickly slapped the guy and punched him in the face. I was in shock. I stood up to confront her, but the guy stopped me and said, " Huwag na." (Don't.) So I stopped myself from confronting her.

I followed her down. When she was outside the gate, she said, "Isang araw, papatayin ko siya." (One day, I will kill him.) I went up to the guy in his bedroom. He said that he heard her threat outside. He also said that when he saw her with the frying pan, he hugged her so that she would stop.

My cousin told me that she saw her inside the house so she asked her how she got inside. She said that she went over the fence. So maybe that's why she was limping. She said that the door was not locked.

My cousin also told me that she saw her go to the kitchen and get the heavy stainless steel frying pan. My cousin only went up the guy's bedroom when she heard the metallic sounds from the pan.

I'm really sad and angry about what happened. Should we have immediately reported her to the police? Should we have stopped her from leaving until they have resolved their problem?

For now, we are praying for her. But I never want to see her again. Not when she has hurt the guy and threatened us. She needs help, psychological and financial. Please pray for her.

Monday, September 01, 2014

Thank you for the blessings

Today I still cough but I don't have colds. I got money to pay for my internet bar review. I got in line in a bank with 122 persons before me but I went to another branch with 30 persons only. I have a headache but it got better when I brushed my hair and there is air conditioning. Good night!